I want to take you back to a scene you’re most likely familiar with. It’s a scene in which a deceptive snake is in dialogue with a woman in a garden. He says to her, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’… You will not surely die. For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”
The story takes a heartbreaking turn as the woman sees that the fruit the deceiver was describing was desirable to her and so, with cosmic consequences, she takes and eats. Moreover, when she eats she turns to her husband and serves him the fruit that leads to death.
Due to the severity of the action and the consequences thereof, there’s much that can be – and has been – said about this back and forth. Yet, I’d like to add another to the conversation, a theologically equipped husband could have been a vital interjector at this junction.
Imagine Adam standing up at the beginning of the dialogue and saying, “Eve, no. We know that God, who gave us each other and the garden, is our satisfaction and delight. We lack nothing when we have him.”
While we’ll never know if this hypothetical situation would have changed the outcome, the moral remains; husbands should seek theological awareness for the good of their marriages.
Husbands, your wives, like Eve, are going to be bombarded by lies. Day in and day out she is going to be told things that are contrary to the gospel of Jesus Christ. She will be told that she needs to look a certain way, say certain things, and have certain items. She will be told that if she doesn’t meet a flawed societies view of femininity, that she has little or no worth. These lies will come from friends, co-workers, family, and often time, her own mind.
When the storm of lies washes upon your wife, many things will help you lead her well, and theology is certainly one of them. When the culture tells her she has little worth because she is lacking in some misconstrued area; you can assure her that because of her union with Christ she lacks nothing and that every good thing she needs has been secured for her in the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus. When she’s tempted to listen to the lies in her head about how she’s not good enough. You can assure her that her justification isn’t in how her co-workers or family perceive her; rather it’s in the atonement of a murdered son who took on flesh for her behalf.
I’m not saying that a man who has all of his theological ducks in a row is guaranteed to be a gifted husband. What I’m arguing for is that husbands who are thinking clearly about theology will have a unique ability to point their brides to the splendor and comfort of the Rock of Ages.
Husbands, your wives need you to deeply know the Lord and his ways. She needs you to think critically about the gospel. She needs you to have sat in awe at the depth of Christ and be ready with all your might to show and lead her to the truth. She needs your theology.
Ronni Kurtz is the Pastor of Teaching and Equipping at Emmaus Church. His passions center around the gospel, his wife, historical and systematic theology and helping the people of Emmaus treasure Jesus. Ronni and his wife Kristen have been married for 3 years.