Beautiful reminders from a terrible weekend

Beautiful reminders from a terrible weekend

This post was written by Michael Kinion, one of our pastoral Residents. It originally appeared here. 

Around 12:30 AM on Saturday, August 6th, I was awoken by a call from my mother telling me that my niece was sick and my sister was taking her to the emergency room to have her looked at. Just a few minutes later I received another call letting me know things had taken a turn for the worst and they were starting to do compressions on my niece. After this call I went to another room and just fell down on the rug and started praying incoherent prayers. I could not collect a thought and for sure could not verbalize a thought so I just begged God to spare my niece’s life. After a short period of time, I received another call, this time from my sister.

I answered and asked what was going on but I already knew what this call meant.  I dropped the phone and experienced the most sudden and intense grief I ever had. At 6 years old, my beautiful niece had passed away.

My wife and I, along with her parents who were visiting for the weekend, left around 1:30 AM to make the three and a half hour drive back to my hometown. During this drive my wife and I experienced an incredible dose of God’s grace as we reflected on the incredible, blessing-filled life of my niece. When we arrived at my sister’s house around 5:00 AM we expected to walk in to a devastating scene of family grieving. Luckily for us, most people were asleep or exhausted by this point so things were calm and quiet. So shortly after we arrived we laid down on the couch to get an hour and a half of sleep before waking up to the next day that would bring many questions and issues to deal with.

Now that I have set the scene for the weekend I will turn my focus to reflect on the beautiful things I saw and experienced during this terrible weekend. My hope is that one would read this and be able to find God’s glory in even the most tragic of events.

1. God Provides: The morning after arriving, I was woken up by my family discussing how we were going to pay for the costs of the funeral. This obviously wasn’t something that my sister and her husband were expecting, so they didn’t have money set aside to take care of expense like this. But within a few hours, the large majority of the costs and most of the plans were taken care of as a result of God’s provision and people’s kind generosity. We saw this trend continue throughout the next couple days as all of the planning and events went smoothly and without issue. But the most significant sign of God’s provision throughout this time was undoubtedly the sense of peace and comfort that God blessed our family with. It was a time full of grief and sorrow, but God made Himself known and provided comfort to a group of people in desperate need of it. Because of this, we were able to see God as the loving and comforting Father that He is and were spared from the false feeling of God being unjust for taking away someone that we loved.

2. Community is of Utter Importance: One of the best parts of the weekend was getting to see how family, friends and church family stepped in and served with love. Every minute of the day, someone was there visiting with the family or bringing food for everyone to eat. We truly got to see community in action. It made me reflect on the consistent effort of many churches to cultivate community. Sometimes cultivating community can feel forced or repetitive. But we’re not gathering together in small groups to just talk about a sermon or hangout. We are gathering together to build bonds that will help one another know each other and care for them in their darkest moments. The role the community surrounding our family played during this time is of insurmountable importance and helped constantly point us to God and His glory.

3. God is Good: Throughout the entirety of this weekend, my most consistent thought was that all theological discussions and attempts to correctly understand God’s word seem like they are drills preparing us for these moments. When all sense of peace seems to be lost, people are forced into the corner of bitterness OR God’s glory. This is why understanding the gospel is so important. When we experience tragedy we must be able to understand the gospel so that we can cling to the cross and know that God is good and that He defeated death so that we may live. A firm comprehension of the gospel also allows us to understand that God is holy and that His perfect will, will be done. Humans have a tendency to try and put themselves at the center of all things (especially during times of tragedy) but a solid understanding of the gospel helps us to step back and take a look at the big picture and realize that God is in control and we are here to see Him glorified, even if that means our ideas of what is good are stomped into the ground. When we process these realities, we are able to find rest in God’s comfort and celebrate a believer being delivered to glory.

This weekend was beyond question one of the most terrible weekends of my life up to this point. But God used a terrible event to show us his beauty, grace and glory. He took a broken situation and used it to remind us that He is beautiful and that He is faithful to us even when it does not look the way we want it to. I will forever mourn the loss of my beautiful niece, but will always be able to look back at this weekend and remember how God was faithful to me and my family.

Self-control, food and ministry.

Self-control, food and ministry.

This post is written by one of our Pastoral Residents, Austin Burgard.

It is said that whenever Christians gather you know there will be food. Ask any Southern Baptist about their after-service potluck and you’ll hear stories about how they ate so much of Miss May’s sweet apple pie that they thought they were going to explode. Are these kinds of food wrong? Sinful? By no means! But, as Christians, I believe that we have taken advantage of the freedom we have in Christ to enjoy all things, including all foods (1 Timothy 6:17; Mark 7:19). And in doing so, we’ve been desensitized to our lack of self-control in regard to food.

Now before you pick up your stones, think with me for a second. Over my first semester at seminary, I saw my overall well-being get worse. Once I stopped working out and started eating out more the quality of my sleep deteriorated, which meant that I was tired throughout the day and my ability to get work well dropped off. It was within the realm of possibility for me to workout but I didn’t. I could have eaten foods that were more nutritious but I opted for the quick meal out. All of this negatively affected my spiritual life. As I lacked self-control and discipline (a four letter word in evangelicalism for some reason) in terms of eating and working out, so went my spiritual discipline.

Now there isn’t necessarily a correlation between nutritious eating, exercise, and spiritual disciplines. But what if there is? If I had been working out and eating well, I would’ve gotten better sleep, which would’ve allowed me to wake up early in the mornings like I like to do. If I would’ve been in the Word and prayer in the mornings, I would’ve been more effective, humanly speaking, at killing sin. If I had been killing sin, my communion with Christ would’ve intensified. If I would’ve gotten better sleep and eaten better, I would’ve had more energy throughout my days. On and on the cycle goes.

Do you see what I mean? Lack of self-control in little things rolls on up to lack of self-control in bigger things. It is a sin that pervades most of our lives and it has dire consequences.

 

Christians need (yes, need to) to practice self-control in all things. I have had the privilege of watching my three bi-vocational pastors with families pursue healthy lifestyles. They may not do it perfectly but they are seeking to practice self-control with what they eat and how they spend their time because they recognize that their self-control, or lack thereof, has consequences. We need to stop giving in to every desire for food. Our Christian subculture has grown desensitized to its sinful effects. Is not God to be desired more than food? When we give ourselves over to sloth and gluttony, we look like the world, not like Christ.

Something Christians need not do is demonize certain foods. God did give us all foods to enjoy. So, Christian, enjoy food and God’s good gifts. But your life is more than food and your stomach is not your god (1 Timothy 6:17; Matthew 6:25; Philippians 3:19; 1 Corinthians 6:13).

This may not be a popular idea within evangelicalism because we love food. But I believe that self-controlled eating and a pursuit of overall health will be for our good and will only serve to strengthen our communion with Christ.

A word of warning for those in ministry: it isn’t cool to spend more time in the gym than on sermon prep or with your family. If your biceps are stronger than your exegesis, you’re doing it wrong. Pastors don’t need to be the fittest people because if they are it is probably at the expense of another crucial aspect of their ministry. We don’t need pastor-bodybuilders but pastor-theologians. But to do the work of ministry, to have the energy to do so, we must practice self-control in all things, including food.

A version of this post was originally published here.

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